Dear Shawna….

Dear Shawna is an opportunity for you to ask Shawna a question and also receive feed back from follower’s of Shawna’s House. Together we can work through your issue and concerns.

You can submit your question via email to OR  visit the website at and submit your question using the Contact Shawna page/form.

All emails will be responded to within 24 to 48 hours. All emailed questions may not be posted to the Blog or website.

Thank you, Shawna~

Example below of a Dear Shawna….

Dear Shawna,

I am a 44 yr old man, married with 3 kids. I love my wife dearly and would do anything for her but I am contemplating
approaching my wife about having an open marriage. In my heart I know that this will be a bad situation for her in the beginning and I have never cheated on my wife. But after 21 years of marriage I find my mind drifting and thinking about other women. So here is my dilemma, do I chose to cheat and live a 2nd life OR do I tell my wife my thoughts and see where things go.

Or follow my heart to not complicate things and burry my thoughts?

Ps. Keep in mind my wife has always been insecure. And I would never want to hurt her.


Mr. 21 yrs married


Dear Mr. 21 yrs Married,

First and fore most I appreciate your openness and the opportunity to help you with your dilemma.

Your idea to have an open marriage started somewhere. The question is where? Being married for 21 years is an
accomplishment, however such a lengthy marriage can become routine. Most of us fantasize about living a different life style. Something out of the every day norm. Ask yourself, what brought on these thoughts? Are you still attracted to your wife? Is your sex life boring? Has everyday become predictable? What do you feel you are missing from your marriage?

These feelings are common and believe it or not your wife maybe feeling the same way!

Side note: Three is a crowd and most of us do not like crowded places.

Try to figure out how you got to this point. Jot down some ideas, take time to really think about how you got to where you are today. Create some excitement within your marriage. Flip the script, do something different on a Tuesday night. Bring in some role playing with sex. Be someone else with your wife and vice versa.

Before having this conversation with your wife have a soul searching conversation with yourself first! What will make you
happy? Be honest with yourself and at the end if you have decided to persue the idea of an open marriage then please talk with your wife.

Although it will be difficult, honesty is the best policy and after 21 years of marriage that would be the least you could do. If after some thought and consideration you have realized ways to keep your union of 2 then there is no harm in thinking and no reason to bring on any added stress or tension.

“Truth is the most valuable thing we have, so I try to conserve it.” ~Mark Twain

Shawna K Clark

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